We believe this notion that:
But after reading this expert from Something Kate Harding (co-author of Lessons from the Fat-o-Sphere: Quit Dieting and Declare a Truce with Your Body) posted.... I think on her blog....maybe she's right in saying "real men do rape." Thoughts?"
“Cause’ the thing is, you and the guys you hang out with may not really mean anything by it when you talk about crazy bitches and dumb sluts and heh-heh-I’d-hit-that and you just can’t reason with them and you can’t live with ‘em can’t shoot ‘em and she’s obviously only dressed like that because she wants to get laid and if they can’t stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen and if they can’t play by the rules they don’t belong here and if they can’t take a little teasing they should quit and heh heh they’re only good for fucking and cleaning and they’re not fit to be leaders and they’re too emotional to run a business and they just want to get their hands on our money and if they’d just stop overreacting and telling themselves they’re victims they’d realize they actually have… all the power in this society and white men aren’t even allowed to do anything anymore and and and…
I get that you don’t really mean that shit. I get that you’re just talking out your ass.
But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women–to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn’t know which one he was.
And that guy? Thought you were on his side.”
-Kate Harding
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"So here's a message to some of the men out there who as they're reading this may be thinking, but i'm not that guy, I've never raped a womon, i've never made fun of one, i've never called one names. But have you ever sat back silently while someone else did? This message is for you:
I get that you don’t really mean that shit. I get that you’re just talking out your ass.
But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women–to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn’t know which one he was.
And that guy? Thought you were on his side.”
-Kate Harding
Heavy stuff for sure.
ReplyDeletethank you leila... a very succinct excerpt that i couldn't agree with more... it's time for men who aren't 'that guy' to support womyn - to take a stand against this rape culture, to speak out - otherwise they are complicit in their silence...
ReplyDeletePoignant and true, I'll be sure to send the message along.
ReplyDeleteThere's something special to me about what she said here. I think it's the idea that people don't mean anythintg by it when they say "XYZ". I hear that so frequently that i've never really known how to get to people like that, how to make them listen and understand without getting angry that they just don't get it. Seeing what Kate Harding wrote here made me feel like i'm not alone in feeling this way,and in calling people out when they use phrases like " that's retarded" or "what a slut/whore/cunt" etc.
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